What Does DOM Mean in Chat?

Dom means "dominant" and "Dirty Old Man." Here is more information about each of these definitions, with examples of use.


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Dom is a term often used often used in discussions related to power dynamics, especially within the context of relationships or sexual interactions. The term is commonly associated with BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) communities, where a "dominant" is the partner who takes on a more controlling or leading role during the interaction. The other partner is often referred to as the "sub" (submissive). For example:

  • Toni and Sam are such a doms. I can't work with either of them anymore.
  • Naughty sub seeks dom for corrective classes.

A female dom is sometimes referred to as a domme. For more on dom/sub relationships, see D/s.

Check out our complete list of dating terms.

Dirty Old Man

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Dom can also be an acronym for "Dirty Old Man." This is a slang term used to refer to an older man whose behavior is considered inappropriate or lecherous. In this context, Dom is a sexist and ageist term that is often used humorously or critically in casual conversations. For example:

  • I can't believe that nearly half the American public voted for a dom as president.
  • At what level of income does a dom become an attractive older guy?

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When I write DOM, I mean this:

meaning of DOM

The definition of "DOM" depends on the context.

Summary of Key Points for the First Definition

"Dominant" is the most common definition for DOM on online dating sites, such as Craigslist, Tinder, Zoosk and, as well as in texts and on chat forums.
Guessability:guessability level 3

3: Guessable

Typical Users:typical user


Summary of Key Points for the Second Definition

"Dirty Old Man" is another definition for DOM.
Definition:Dirty Old Man
Guessability:guessability level 3

3: Guessable

Typical Users:typical user


An Academic Look at DOM

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When used with the meaning "Dirty Old Man," dom can be considered an acronym, because it is formed by taking the initial letters of the term and pronouncing them together as a single word.

When used with the meaning "dominant," dom is a contraction, as it is a shortened version of the actual word. Contractions can be formed in a number of ways, including:
  • Omitting letters from the word (e.g., pct (percent), obv (obviously)).
  • Using letters from the start and end of the word (e.g., adds, Dr (Doctor)).
  • Using an apostrophe to replace a letter or letters (e.g., don't (do not), can't (cannot)).

Example of DOM Used in a Text

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