What Does IHYDM Mean in a Text?

IHYDM means "I Hope You Don't Mind." The abbreviation IHYDM is used to ask permission to do something. It is typically used when the sender assumes that they will be granted such permission and is merely being polite. In this context, IHYDM is often used retrospectively, i.e., either after the event or after the arrangements have been made. For example:
  • IHYDM, but I borrowed used your name to get into the club last night.
  • (Here, IHYDM is being used to ask permission after the event.)
  • IHYDM, but I have decided to take a sabbatical next year.
  • (Here, IHYDM is being used to ask permission before the event, but after the decision has been made.)
IHYDM is also often used to preface a remark or question that may be construed as insensitive. For example:
  • IHYDM me saying, but that dress looks awful on you.
  • IHYDM me mentioning it, but I saw Dave in the bar last night and he was really drunk. Is everything OK?

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When I write IHYDM, I mean this:

meaning of IHYDM

"I Hope You Don't Mind," often means "I Don't Care If You Mind."

Summary of Key Points

"I Hope You Don't Mind" is the most common definition for IHYDM on Snapchat, WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and TikTok.
Definition:I Hope You Don't Mind
Guessability:guessability level 3
3: Guessable
Typical Users:typical user

Adults and Teenagers

Examples of IHYDM in Sentences

Here are examples of IHYDM being used in conversations:
  • Tina: Someone's moved the Christmas tree.
  • Tim: It was me. IHYDM. I just thought it looked better over there.
  • Gillian: This is the cake I've made for the competition.
  • Andrew: IHYDM me saying, but I don't think it's your best one.

An Academic Look at IHYDM

IHYDM is an initialism abbreviation. Technically, this means it is pronounced using its individual letters (i.e., Eye Aitch Why Dee Em), but as this is harder to say than "I Hope You Don't Mind," it is not often uttered using its letters. In other words, the abbreviation IHYDM is for efficiency in writing and not efficiency in speech.

IHYDM is often used as a standalone declarative sentence (i.e., a statement). It is not normally used as another part of speech within a wider sentence.

What Did We Say before Texting and Social Media?

Before the digital era, we might have said something like "Do You Mind" or "May I," or even just "I Hope You Don't Mind" instead of using IHYDM.

Example of IHYDM Used in a Text

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